The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands. (Proverbs 14:1)
We know that to build anything solid, wisdom is required so the construction will be perfect. The wise woman knows the right moment to act, for her wisdom does not come from herself, but from God. A home that has the Lord as its center is a home of peace, refreshment, and true faith. To build means to raise a structure according to a pre-established plan, using the right materials. The wise woman uses the faith she has received from God to pursue a blessed marriage, to guard respect, to cultivate friendship and companionship, and to work together for the growth of her entire family.
“Foolish” means lacking intelligence, instruction, or knowledge, ignorant. When Scripture speaks of the foolish woman, we see a woman who throws away everything the family has achieved, a woman without patience in marriage, without patience with her children, and who does not walk according to God’s will. We have two opposite types: the wise woman, deeply interested in the material and spiritual well-being of her home, and the foolish woman, completely indifferent to the physical and spiritual growth of her family.
Seeking Wisdom from God
It is essential that every woman seek wisdom from the Lord. James teaches us exactly how:
If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. (James 1:5)
But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. (James 1:6)
Not only the woman, but every member of the household needs this wisdom to face times of plenty and times of scarcity, joy and anguish. Life demands wise decisions in every season, and the best choices are those that keep the family united through any trial.
The Sacred Role of Women in the Home
God gave women the greatest gift: the ability to bear children and to care for the home, being a good mother and wife. In Eden, when God formed Eve from Adam’s rib, the helper was born, the companion who would assist man in everything. That assistance requires divine wisdom. Managing a family is not easy, but with wisdom from above it becomes possible to have a truly blessed home.
Biblical Examples of Wise Women
Deborah: Leadership and Courage
Now Deborah, a prophetess, the wife of Lappidoth, was judging Israel at that time. She used to sit under the palm tree of Deborah between Ramah and Bethel in the hill country of Ephraim; and the children of Israel came up to her for judgment. (Judges 4:4-5)
Deborah called Barak and delivered God’s command for battle against Sisera. Even when Barak hesitated, she went with him, showing that a wise woman protects and guides her home and even her nation under God’s direction.
Mary and Martha: Choosing the Best Part
Now it happened as they went that He entered a certain village; and a certain woman named Martha welcomed Him into her house. And she had a sister called Mary, who also sat at Jesus’ feet and heard His word. But Martha was distracted with much serving, and she approached Him and said, “Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Therefore tell her to help me.” And Jesus answered and said to her, “Martha, Martha! You are worried and troubled about many things. But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:38-42)
Mary chose to sit at Jesus’ feet. The wise woman understands that, before any household task, the priority is the presence of the Lord.
Paul’s Instruction in Titus
That they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. (Titus 2:4-5)
Titus summarizes God’s purpose: women are called to teach, care for, and be the pillar of the home, helping their husbands form children with a character of holiness and fear of the Lord.
Faith as Small as a Mustard Seed
Assuredly, I say to you, if you have faith as a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move; and nothing will be impossible for you. (Matthew 17:20)
Jesus teaches that a tiny faith, planted in fertile soil, grows and bears extraordinary fruit. In marriage and family, we begin with that small seed: prayer, love, respect, and wisdom, and we reap children who walk with God, a husband who fulfills God’s will, and a home filled with divine peace.
Women are the rarest and most precious treasure God ever created. Each has her unique calling, but every wise woman shares the same mark: unshakable faith in the God who empowers her to build, day after day, a house that will stand forever.
